I can't decide what's worse; those who talk a good game but are really doing nothing or those who "hate" on the ambitions of others. I'm not here to pass judgment on anyone's life. However, I sincerely have a problem with people who see "trying" as a wasteful cause.
For the past few years, I've been focused on something that's very passionate to me: growing leaders. I truly have a genuine agenda for helping others reach their potential; nonetheless, I can be lethally blunt when it comes to reality checks. Not just with others, but with my self. Cowards often hide behind secrets, lies, self-doubt, or a combination of all. It's amazing how some people will advocate for you to fail; to give-up; to sabotage yourself; before they will ever encourage you to be better. Why?
People who have never ventured outside of the same world they lived in as an adolescent, often have a hard time seeing beyond their comfort zone. It's the very definition of ignorance: unknowing due to lack of experience. If your best friend is the same friend you had in high school, living the same way they did then, with the same mindset, and speaking the exact same "language" they did at 18 a decade later- then you may want to consider if they add value to your life or hinder your growth.
Far too many people will partake in wasting away at "good timing" before they take up on an opportunity to invest in themselves. They'd rather waste money on feeling good for a moment, than feeling good for a lifetime. It has to be a fear; a fear of stepping out of the box of what they've always done, to take a chance at something different. Consequently, risk is a part of growing.
Fascinated by pop-culture, reality t.v, and celebraties, they'd [cowards] rather live vicariously through the life of others than to put effort into a life of their own. Cowards suffocate themselves in other peoples business to find validation in their own life, and to avoid their own issues. A coward will rather cause havoc, than assess themselves. Being a coward is a disturbing full time job.
Beware of cowards; they will bring you down. Focus on purpose; write the things you want out of life down and review them everyday; make them a focus in your life and have a plan for obtaining them. And most of all, believe in yourself; because, if you don't few people will and you'll become no better than a coward.
LIVE... It's an urgent matter.
This will teeter on controversial. Bare with me...
I come from a city of misery. As much as I love what I learned from the people of Greenville, TX [my city], I despise what the unintended gloominess of a non-progressive era has done to ruin the city and kill the motivation of the people in it.
I am guilty; I hardly ever go "home". In fact, the last 7 years of my life I have been home less then 14 times; which means I have seen my city, my people, less than 2 times a year. What's even sadder is the times I did go home, half of those were for funerals. It's not a statistic I'm proud of; nor, is it one I beat myself up about.
Going home reminds me of why you should never look back. It's the same scene, different day. Time seems to sit still on the lap of many people there. Don't get me wrong, there are some progressive and successful people in my city, but I find that they are far and few between the world I know.
I've had the same conversation with a store clerk on Wesley street the past 7 years I've visited. Let's put this in perspective: the same girl has taken my money for gas the past 7 years, her name tag still reads "clerk"; she is in the same position at the same place of business 7 years later. Now, it may be by choice, but I find it hard to stand still in conditions that favor progression. When others around you grow, you have a better chance of growing too. Hence, this is still missing from her life.
The first time I met her, she'd just graduated from high school. She told me that she was planning to attend Texas A & M Commerce in the fall; fast forward 7 years later and she's yet to finish. Odds are she likely never will. Nevertheless, every visit since the first visit she says to me as if routine, "Girl, you still look good. You must have a good job. I'm planning on getting back in school next year." I've never once actually responded with an answer about my life; never wanting to make her feel smaller in her apparent small world. I smile and tell her it's good to see her, and wish her luck on her pursuit in education.
As a person who's passionate about the power of LIVING and not watching life go by, it's very difficult for me to filter at times. But, I feel like I've watched this girl become a woman and transcend to the very thing her surrondings has allowed her to be- common. She could do more. But, I wonder if she knows how to? Does she know where to start? Or, does she even have enough determination to change her circumstances?
She's a victim of indifference. It's the number one theme I feel, hear, and see when I go home. People who are surrounded by people who lack enthusiasm about life. They say one thing but never act on it. It's as if depression is walking in the air, and people just breathe it in like it's the norm. It's hypocrital to judge the very world that has helped me become the person I am today. To say there's nothing fallible about my feeling towards my city, would be a lie. But despite it all, I love my city.
I love my city for everything it taught me not to be and for everyone who told me to be better, what to watch out for, and to never look back. A lot of people harp on their circumstances because they've decided to be victims. However, everybody has a story; everybody can pin-point something in their life that could've stopped them from progressing. At some point, the store clerk decided that was the best she could be. She consciencely declared defeat. She's lost her aspirations because she became a victim to her own circumstance.
You can rise against anything if you never claim the self pity it makes you feel; if you fight to have a presence in this life- to refuse mediocrity- then the sky is truly the limit. Don't allow yourself to be a victim in this limited gift of life. Proclaim your place in this world. Be persistent at LIVING and never look back.
Milestones are essential. They should be the benchmarks of life assessments. Upon reflecting on my life, I can identify my milestones; the moments that ultimately defined who I am as a person and what I wanted out of life.I didn't just graduate from high school, I graduated from circumstances. The hardships that I experienced growing up are just part of my story; they are not ever excuses to any setback in my life.
I remember watching my mom rise at Outreach Health Services from out-patient provider to supervisor. I watched her win people over by her commitment and dedication to the job. I have a crystal clear memory of her getting dressed-up for work on her first day as a supervisor; from street running to office worker; from minimum wage to raise; from teen mom to professional... I was proud of the milestone she had achieved. It made me believe that hardwork could transform status at the drop of a dime.
Inspired by her perseverance, I immediately developed an attitude about work. Rather it was chopping meat at Sav-A-Lot or selling "Bundle Packages" at Hollywood Video, I was committed to showing people that I had value because of my commitment to working. Slowly but surely, those commitments to work begin to pay off in promotions and pay grade, and I realized that the more I dug into the depth of myself the more I increased my opportunities.
This year, the day of my 30th birthday I received a call that opened another milestone in my life. I remember thinking how surreal the moment was, and reflecting on how much depth I put in my work, my reputation, and into building relationships with people to get to where I'd come. I thought about all the milestones I achieved before that milestone, and how ultimately they all connected.
I have and still PUSH myself to the limit for the things that drive me and for the people that inspire me. I work to the beat of my drum; to the drum that was created by witnessing the most influential person in my life. Pa-rumpa-pa-pom to the solicitation of fierceness she showed me as a crusader raising from the plagues of her circumstance.
A crusaders paradise is victorious; their paradise is the accomplishment of their battle and the procession of victory. What ever your story, your hardship, or your circumstance, if you are not living BEYOND it you're living IN it. Disposition is transcended; it's the weakest excuse of self distruction and the harshest reality of pathetic.
Be a crusader by living with palpable [intense] and paramount [greatest] intensions. Re-invent yourself as a seeker of milestones and paradises.
The very first time you ever saw Michael Jackson do the Moonwalk, you had to be either in awe or intrigued. My favorite thing about watching Michael do the Moonwalk was that it allowed him to walk away from someone backwards; still looking at them- bold- and with captivating smoothness. The Moonwalk personifies how someone should walk away from their "Doubters" aka "haters".
No matter where you work or what you do, everyone has a place they call the "lounge". For some, the lounge is literally inside their place of work, and for others it's the "hangout/drinking spot" outside of work; you know the place where a group of people from work get together and just talk filthy about anything and anyone that has corrupted their day. We've all been visitors of hate in the lounge; the professional gossipers and naysayers.
You leave the lounge in two moods: fulfilled that others validate your complaints or angrier because somebody said something negative that really hit too close to home; which of course gravely offended you. On top of it all, you generally learn another rumor or something you didn't know about someone else, which puts you right back in that continuous negative cycle. It took me years of learned wisdom to recognize the "lounge" was the most sought out place for "haters" to recruit "Doubters".
It's the old saying, "Misery loves company". Those who project negativity certainly don't want to be gratifying of those who seek positivity. Take your worse enemy, if he or she has ambition their ambition will likely drive you to want more; do more; have more. Take your best friend, and if he or she lacks ambition then you're more likely to do less, do the same, or do slightly better than him or her. Why is this?
The most present extricate or external motivation is your surroundings. The people you see and the places you go will Influence the way you live. This is not a theory, it's a living fact. How they influence you is completely controlled by your morals and values, or lack there of. I continue to find myself in isolation of those who simply can't think on my level; not necessarily get on my level but THINK on my level. Many people assume that when you don't associate or fade from the "same scene" they are in, then you must think "you're better than them". But the fact of the matter is, if you never water your seed then it will be the same seed it always was just like the next unwatered seed in the dirt next to it. It will die from lack of care, preservation, and presence. The seed that's being watered to your right will out grow you, and the one to your left not being watered will want you to stay and die off with it or before it; thus, the illustration of a "hater".
Doubters don't want you to grow beyond their potential, their status, or their livelihood. They are absolutely satisfied with your failures and your un-productivity. They may not mean to be, but they can't help it. They don't understand or know anything other than their way of living. They've forgotten how to WANT, NEED, and DESIRE something so much that you sleep wideawake thinking about it, and you grind for it with persistent organized insanity and passion.
Today, identify the Doubters in your life and begin Moonwalking away; eyes wide open, never looking over your shoulder- smooth- so you can always see them coming...
Celebrations should be one of the most frequent experiences in living. The first time I had champagne was on a beach in Cancun. I was stretched out in the sand under a palm tree watching the sunset; the water was my music and nature was my world. The waiter brought me a glass of champagne. I thought it was strange because I didn't order it. I had no idea this was just the norm of service in "that life". At the time, I was young and I thought champagne was something that old wealthy people drank; inexperience in living "the good life" presented me with the strangest obstacle in sipping this smooth crisp-golden drink.
I held the glass in my hand for a long time, in fear of what sipping the potion would do to me. It was antagonizing because many of the people around me were indulging in this drink that was so foreign to me. Finally, I took a deep breathe and slowly brought the golden substance to my lips. It went down so smooth that it left a sensation in my throat. In pure ecstasy, I called the waiter back and asked for the name of the champagne and ordered another glass. He told me it was Krug Champagne; a flavor I've never forgotten.
From that moment on, I realized I liked the champagne life. I wanted to be a part of it as much as I possibly could. I made a pack with myself while sitting out on the beach, tipsy from joy. The joy of knowing that happiness is a state of living that requires celebration. Celebration that comes with understanding that you've done something incredible to change the dynamics of your life. I was on that beach because I'd achieved a new status; a new step in the direction of the Champagne Life.
Every year, I've poured champagne on my life. I've worked to the bone when I needed to, and celebrated with a Champagne toast for my accomplishments. It wasn't about the brand of my first glass of champagne; it didn't have to be Moet to have value. It was about what the experience meant to me. Because of that moment, my eyes were opened wider to a world they had been shut off to.
I continue to LIVE: Love and Invent in myself with Vigorous purpose that leads to pure Elation in my life. I LIVE everyday. I want to inspire people to do the same by coaching motivational mindsets that ultimately lead to lifelong success. Pour champagne on your life; you deserve a celebration.
Relationships are complex. The exhaustion that goes into building quality relationships, of all kinds, is edifying. Perhaps the most dedicating thing a person can ever do in their life time is commit to a relationship. As gratifying as relationships are, they can also be very dangerous.
At the tail end of my college years, I realized that I was in a vile relationship; a relationship so embedded in false comfort and satisfying irresponsibility that I found it lustful. Sinfulness delights can be so addicting, and as I began to fall victim to the seduction of comfort I almost forgot about the most important relationship in my life: the one with myself.
Before conclusions are drawn, there must be clarification of this "wreckless" behavior I fell victim to. I simply was living the comforts of robotic routine: go to class, go to work, chill. A constant medley of persistent behaviors that did not involve reflection or progression. Although, I was working towards my bachelors and for most people my illustration of routine seems like a justifiable routine to fall into, I knew that my inability to do more than the minimum was putting me behind the curve of at least 30% of my generation. Thus, the gap between my current status and those 30%-ers started long ago.
It's funny how we are able to reflect on what we COULD have done when we SHOULD have done it. I love when people start a sentence with, "If only I had known then what I know now". What I can say without a doubt is that my 20 something self taught my 30 self to dig deeper; to dig deeper in working for my aspirations and goals. That 20 year old taught this 30 year old that life is the most eternal "now" that we have, and that to me defines living it to the fullest.
When I feel like I've come to the end of my ability, the end of the energy that drives my motivation- I dig deeper. I dig for that 20 something ability and energy that I didn't use then; those leftovers from a decade ago. It's amazing how my 20 year old self has such a deep impact on the pursuit of my definition of LIVING. Living with a deeper commitment to living a life fulfilled with effort and recognition of when I need to hold myself accountable and dig deeper. "I hope I always know now what I didn't know then."
I've watch friends and family monopolize their livelihood on dwelling on things they can't control. I've been a misfit to my own family many times, because my education, morals, and values have often seperated our beliefs. Through every cryptic situation I've experienced or observed within my family, I've chosen one side; that is the side that doesn't isolate me from who I am.
In life you can either burn bridges by asserting yourself as the only opinion that matters, or you can cultivate your existence by leaving wonder to matters that do not define you as a person. I stray away from adverse situations that have no magnitude, breadth or depth, for who I am and where I'm trying to get.
I marvel, in the sarcastic of terms, at how social media has changed the world. People display their life, morals, and values as if they are Catholics sitting in the confessional booth. Whatever happened to privacy and humility? Seems as though that has fallen by the wayside with the essence of disappointment.
Disappointment sucks; and what social media had provided is a " like " for other peoples disappointment. Some people live to just know someone else shares in their misery; that their being understood; that they're acknowledge. It is a daunting way to live. People should seek positive transformation in their life. Transformation that proactively creates positive reinforcement in their livelihood.
Flaws are pits in character that we must address and sometimes accept. They are not disillusionment of who we think we are; they actually provide us with self reflection to address our disappointments in life. Live proclaiming disappointment as a temporary state versus a bullet of damnation. Opportunity... I keep speaking of that word... Is a recourse to your discourse of disappointment. Make things happen in your life because you are worth it, because disappintment simply sucks; it should not be the end of your world.
Generally when someone refers to the FEDS people become alarmed or express disgruntlement with the government entities that police the people of this country. FEDS is actually a slang term that was cultivated through music and the internet to refer to the controversial practices of so called corrupt officials. However, these are not the FEDS that are being referred to in this post. Re-defined, the FEDS are: funds, education, determination, and success; the essential pedigrees needed to achieve YOUR quality of life.
To clarify for the sake of this conversation, educational pedigree in this definition is not solely associated with school; it's wide open to the interpretation that anything you do to educate yourself on your craft, trade, or skill is acceptable education. Hindsight reflects that many people have succeeded with and without traditional education because of the body of work they put into educating themselves in the business they sought. People like: Michael Dell (Dell Computers), Bill Gates (Microsoft), Kristy Walton (Wal-Mart), Jay-Z and Beyoncé (artist), and Mike Zuckerberg (Facebook) are all self made million and billionaires from different and similar business sectors, who are college dropouts or never went to college at all. This is not to mislead anyone, because there is an impressive list of those with the same gravity of success on the flip side. To be fair these are people with incredible talents and minds; extradordinarily gifted. Nevertheless, they had to open their mind to the idea that being successful is not predestined by the amount of education or talent a person has, but by the work put into the full pedigree to achieve their success.
Determination drives motivation and passion. No one has a flawless journey. Opposition is met at the top and bottom; "no's" will be a well known response and sacrifices will be the pillow for ones head as they push to be successful. Those who succeed are not shaken by this; they feel the rejection and redirect it as motivation. Their core belief in themselves is never rattled. Determination cycles out those that "wish" they could and those that understand they "can".
Funds are defined by the networth of a person: stocks, bonds, investments, property, assets, and currency. Combined together, these are the type of funds that separate classes of people. The reality is only a small percentage of us will reach the status of the highest elite for various reasons. The goal should be to dig into the pie; the infinite pie of success that is not unobtainable. What it takes is a strong commitment to the FEDS.
Take time today to examine where you are with your FEDS. Treat it like an equation: all the accounts of funding, plus your personal education needed to obtain your goal, plus the determination you need or have to achieve your goal- equals what success will look like to you. Some opportunities are simply opportunities that lead to better opportunities. If you fall under the number one complaint of people, "I need more money", then what are you doing to make more? Change your quality of life; invest time in your FEDS.
The past 5 years of my life have been about developing my understanding of myself, others, and the world at a far deeper level. At 30, I truly believe that I am wiser than my age and more positively active than I was in my youth. If only I knew then, what I know now... I'd be 10 years ahead of where I'm headed.
So, let me tell you what I know now. I know that investments are risky, must be calculated, must have a beginning and future value, and must be carried out with WORK. Every effort that you put into an opportunity, rather accepted or rejected, ultimately leads to some success you'll have in your present or future endeavors. Thus, we learn from our mistakes and successes.
"Keeping it real", too many of us have unrealistic investments. Remember to ask yourself, "What opportunities do your talents provide and what real evaluation have you had on those talents?" You can be the " hype- man" of YOU, but you must develop that to the hype of many. No man or woman has prospered without the following and growth of others. Seek to identify yourself as a brand; a brand of real talents that are founded in true educated ambitions and passions.
Here's what I mean... If you think you can sing, rap, ball, be a boss, or whatever- what have you put into your investment? How are you funding your present and future ambitions? A JOB has often been defined as "just over broke"; meaning that most people are just getting by. If you never stake a true investment in yourself, how will you ever get ahead of the status quo?
You have to spend money smartly to make money LONG. It's not about cars and clothes; rich or elite people speak 4 languages: 1.) great credit 2.) investments, 3.) networth, and 4.) power and/or control. Your opportunities must be an extension into the longevity of your wealth. Status is created by what you did on yesterday and yesterday and yesterday to build right now and the future; if you do not understand what I just said you'll always be missing the point.
If your sharing your life on social media what are you doing it for? What are you gaining and what are you losing? We are beginning to cut the "middle man" out. For example, pay attention to what @beyonce just did. What's a market with no consumers? Dead... So, change your status by maximizing your opportunity as a consumer and as a independent owner.
I've been thinking that many of us are not thinking enough...
Power should not be obtained by sabotage. That type of power will exploit itself because it begins as its on sabotager. To be a "boss" one must captivate people with their ability to lead; to lead with selflessness and committement to something greater than self. For many people, this is impossible. They cannot think past their own needs and desires. They do not realize that the foundation of life long happiness and success is grounded in doing good deeds for others.
Now, to be clear this by no-means means that you shouldn't have a ruthless pursuit to obtaining success through POSITIVE and passionate approaches to impacting your livelihood; in fact, you should assert the greatest power in your approach to living, and not to controlling how others live. Power should be a partner in propelling the growth of people who pursue and invest in the same opportunities and causes as you.
Our morals and values are the principals of how we govern, seek, and obtain power. Its [power] is routed deeply in all our relationships; you're either the possesser, distributor, or facilitator of it. Those who use it best, are well rounded in all facets. Power should not be micro-managed, it should be planted and watered with wisdom that is founded in an epistomology (totality of the discovery of knowledge). For the very young or the very inexperience, do not let the aforementioned (previous statement) drown out your understanding.
To put it simply: power is the friend to lifelong success and happiness. However, it must be free of ruthless corruption and selfishness, and molded with persistent fairness and consistency of ones morals and values. Lay down for no men or women in your pursuit for this type of power.
Be ambitious, vigorous, and ambitious everyday of your life in your pursuit of power. Great rulers of power become founding fathers of legacies that we learn from.