You learn a lot about people just by observing. There's so much value in intently watching others. How does a person act in certain situations? How do they act around you versus others? What do they say when faced with unique questions? What do you consistently see, hear, and feel when you are around them? There's so much to pay attention to; so much to learn about life. The most powerful and abundant tool in the world is our relationships with others; how we build them and what value they bring to our life.
She could've been something special; she could've been an incredible SOMEBODY, but she let "IT" ruin her life. It wasn't a drug, it wasn't a man- there wasn't a single finger to point in her demise. She came from a good upbringing, not perfect, but good. Sure she wasn't perfect, but she was a decent person; no one who deserved bad karma. She had dreams of becoming a doctor, a wife, a mother- dreams of living in Maui and buying a house on the beach. She dreamed everyday of her life about the things she wanted, but she never made any of them come true.
The first opportunity she had at going to college, she flunked out after the first year. Too busy hanging out with "friends". She partied Thursday-Sunday, and slept Monday-Wednesday for an entire year of her life. When the words "Academic Probation" appeared on her first semester transcript, it never dawned on her that she was in trouble. It wasn't until she was denied financial aid that she realized she really messed-up. She went home after her first year of college with a total of 9 credit hours; she never made it past her freshman year.
When she found her "dream guy", she let the influences of some of her family and friends tear them apart. He was a successful banker, had his own car, good credit, ambition, committed, and didn't come with any baggage. He treated her like a queen, but he didn't allow her to settle for subpar. He wanted a partner, not just a house wife. He made it a point to remind her not to get caught-up in family and friend drama. He refused to accept the negative influences of others in her life. So, they [the others] played the "blood is thicker than everything" and "who was there for you when..." cards. They convinced her he was just "stuck-up" and thought he was better than everybody else. She begin to nod along with them; stopped coming home to him; stopped trying to better herself; refused to listen to anything he said. He got tired of fighting for her love and attention, so he let her go.
As she continued to fail at relationship after relationship, not just with people but in all aspects of life, she slowly begin to lose self-confidence. Every failure chipped away a piece of her spirit- her soul. She'd have conversations about doing this or that, but she never did anything to make positive impacts happen in her life. She sabotaged every opportunity that came her way. Because she lacked direction, she became a lap-dancer to every shiny quarter and new face that came into her life. She never focused on achieving one solitary thing in her life; except failure. She never recognized how the relationships she built with others affected the way she lived. She died drinking dreams; drunk on empty relationships and imaginary goals.
I've met this girl many times; I've seen "IT" take her down. Some people spend a lot of time "drinking dreams"; gulping everything around them that taste good- not paying attention to what's really in the glass. Life can be a sad parody: a commercial of propagandas to provoke inadequate emotions. If you can target a persons emotions, pin-point what drives them up or down- you can essentially control them. Control dominates in many ways. Envision what obsession would look like personified. It would be a fixation, a mania, that has the ability to capture anyone willing to allow it to rule their mind- this is control. How much control you allow people to have in your life does effect the way you live.
Watching someone fall from "IT", drinking dreams- these illusions that were never going to bring anything valuable to their life- is tragic. You think about the " if onlys"; "if only" they had payed more attention to the intentions of the people around them, "if only" they learned from their mistakes, "if only" they were in control of their life. Watch what you feel your "cup of life" with; everything that looks good, tastes good- is not always what's best for you.
Dreams are not meant to be drunk; they are only visions of what could be. What's real are the goals you actually set and pursue in your life. Stay in control of YOU.