Many people wait to celebrate living; they wait for special occassions like Christmas, a life changing event, or their birthday. To truly LIVE, a person should be able to look back on most of the days of their life like a great poem- a journey of legendary moments unique to them. I continue to find two things to be true about life: It is what you make of it and how you live it that makes it beyond special.
We can never be certain about what's in store for us from day to day; what hurdles we will have to leap or moments that can potentially change our life. The only guarantee we have is the gift of life in every breath we are blessed to take; that means every breath that happens every second in our life is a blessing. To me, that entitles us to always have something to be thankful for. If you are a cynic, always seeking the very worst outcome, nothing will ever matter or awaken you enough to change the course of your life. Nevertheless, if you are someone who believes that life is an opportunity in itself to be epic- to be better than average, to explore endless opportunities of those opportunties- then you can understand what it means to LIVE EPIC.
The degree of success from person to person often differs. A lot of people do not mind losing as long as they lose by a small margin; while others don't value winning unless they scunk their opponent. These "games" taught me that an opponent is measured by skill and weakness; what power you give someone over you versus the power they actually have. A skillful opponent has always taught me something that made me grow, and a weak opponent has always reminded me of something that I did or should know not to do.
For many men the journey of life is about how they stand-up to any man standing next to them. However, the difference from man to man is what they do to get ahead or measure-up to the next man. This, I believe, is the same for most women but on a different scale. Many women may measure their success by the success of their man, but forget the singular image of themselves. The difference is being able to say what "WE have" and what "I have" in a relationship. The point is that people have different expectations in life. Our "quality of life" is not one image of the white picket fence and the pictureous Cosby Show family, it's a cluster of several different images unique to the eyes of the beholder. At the end of the day, people have a choice of what defines their life.
The amount of energy we expend on absorbing others worries or engaging in pointless competitions like the men talking at the gas pump, often hinder the progression in our life. I realized that the best thing I can do for anyone is to invest the very best of me into ME. It doesn't mean I have to cut everyone out of my life or stop caring, but it allows me to focus on controling things that are within my power and release the things that are for others to control.
To this day, I can remember my most epic Spades and Dominoes games: 1.) the first time I beat my Godfather head-up, and 2.) the first time I yelled "roll call" with my mother and grandma as my opponents. These were strong opponents. They challenged me, they made me think for myself, and they helped me grow.
We only have ONE life to LIVE. Define what "living epic" means to you.