Everyone has been a day late and a dollar short at some point in their life. We've all been "down on our luck" and at the end of our wits trying to make something out of nothing. Growing-up I, like many others, at times experienced desperate conditions: candle nights, beans and cornbread dinners, cracker sandwiches, makeshift hot baths- the works. Many of you will completely understand the description of the conditions above; you will get their underlining meaning because you've lived them. Those conditions are the conditions I faced as a child when ends didn't meet. I can vouch that, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger". Growing-up, we managed to make a "Comeback" when things got hard; those "Comebacks" made me stronger.
Perception is reality. If you view yourself or your conditions as absolute, they will remain absolute. There's only one way to go when you're down: UP. The odds are more on your side when you're at the bottom than when you're in the middle or at the top, with the limelight shining on you. Think about it like classes of people: the middle class want more relief, the rich want less "punishment" for being at the top, and the poor want more opportunity to obtain what the other two classes have. Keep in mind I'm speaking of a majority, not minority, of people. The road UP may be more difficult, but it has the most favorable odds of them all. It's simply about changing the mindset of how you look at your position.
There are two outcomes to being down: to stay down or rise up. If you surround yourself with downers, people who carry negativity in their pocket like loose change, they'll always be willing to loan you a quarter of their negativity in your most desperate times. This is often what happens to those that turn to a life of crime; they allow desperate times to lead to desperate measures, because the people and/or community around them does not uplift them. Living that "life" has been proven to be a short come-up; the odds are heavily stacked against you.
When you think of the people in your life categorize them in two ways: the "have" and the "have-nots". The "haves" should be people that offer you support through motivation and honesty. They don't have to be wealthy or necessarily the perfect picture of living well. Many people don't have access to the middle or top of the food chain when they are starting from the bottom. There's a lot of valuable knowledge to be learned from people who've been there, done that, and will honestly advise you not to follow in their footsteps. People that advocate for your well-being may be people that tower over you or float under you. Some of my best lessons have come from those that now float under me, because those are the conditions that I rose from. The key is surronding yourself with people that genuinely respect your ambition and care for you enough to put jealousy and envy aside when you start to rise.
The "have-nots" can also come from people above you. People at the top are often very cautious of people below them; especially those at the bottom. It's like the scene at the stop light: I'm in a car; you're on foot with a sign asking for help; Black, White, Hispanic, or whatever race- I'm locking my doors. The mindset is that the person with the sign wants what the person in the car has; it's the perception and reality that they could possibly want it bad enough to try to take it. People at the top can be "have-nots" because they don't want to or feel they have to share their pie. It's naive to think that you've "struck gold" by befriending a wealthy person, because unless you have what THEY have YOU didn't earn it. There is nothing holding them back from cutting you off at the drop of a dime, and there's no contract saying they owe you anything. Never depend on someone else's fortunes; go make your own.
"The Comeback" happens when you stop being content with what you don't have but desire, and start making things happen to achieve it. If your lights are off, you can keep lighting candles or you can work to put yourself in a position that they'll never be off again. Remember that perception is reality; if you say you are something, say you want to do something, and position yourself with the right people and knowledge to obtain it- you'll always have a shot at "The Comeback".
Life lessons come like fists pounding on the chest of potential lions. We root for the underdog because he has nothing to lose and everything to gain. In life, you're always steps away from rising UP. It's simply a matter of getting back up when you get knocked down. Mistakes are only bad habits that need to be broken; we learn from that-that doesn't kill us.
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